9) Overlook Their Shortcomings, Remember Their Virtues

Even though there are shortcomings in a person's character and conduct, there are also virtues. It would be difficult to interact with people if we only scrutinized their shortcomings and ignored their good points. On the other hand, if we think of their positive characteristics and ignore their shortcomings, then we will be able to get along well for the rest of our lives.

10) Disrespect and Jealousy Will Earn Disgrace and Humiliation

If we are arrogant, hypocritical, jealous, and suspicious in the way we treat people, then we are asking for disgrace and humiliation. A gentleman of high-caliber would not behave this way.

Those who are arrogant tend to smear others even if they know they are not as good. When facing people who are less prominent and in need of help, instead of treating them with respect, they disparage them behind their back. These people would feel humiliated if they reflected on their own behavior.

Those who are hypocritical may appear to speak politely, as though they are kind to others, but inside, their heart is totally the opposite. They may earn other's trust and respect initially, but after dealing with them a few times their real nature is revealed. Eventually, they will be cast aside with scorn.

Those who are jealous of others often put their own interests above others. Whenever they hear others being praised, they become angry and agitated because they feel the praise is unjustified. When they hear others being criticized, they feel happy and joyful. This kind of behavior will increase others’ resentment toward them.

Those who are suspicious constantly wonder when they hear casual comments, "What are they mocking me about? Why are they laughing at me?" Grudges often begin like this and result in resentment of others. A sagacious man would never take another's mockery and jeers to heart and thus would avoid any agony or worry.

 忘人短　念人长

人的性格、品行中虽然有短处，也一定有长处。与人交往，如果经常注重他人的短处，而无视他人的长处，那么，就连一刻也难以与人相处。相反的，如果常想着他人的长处，而不去计较他的短处，就是一辈子相交下去也能和睦。

轻慢嫉妒　自取其辱

待人接物时，如果总是怀着傲慢、虚伪、嫉妒、怀疑之心，那么这是自己向人讨取轻蔑与侮辱。品德高尚的君子是不会这么做的。

有傲慢之心的人，自己明明不如人，却喜欢轻薄别人。见到地位低于自己，以及有求于己的人，不仅当面不以礼相待，并且在背后暗地里讥笑人家。这种人如能反省一下自身，则可能会惭愧得汗流浃背。

怀有虚伪之心的人，言语十分委婉动听，好像对待别人很厚道，可心里则大相迳庭。这种人可能一时之间还被人相信仰慕，可是与他打上几次交道，他的真面目就暴露无遗了。最终被人唾弃。

怀有嫉妒之心的人常常想把自己放在高出别人的地位，所以听到有赞美别人好时，就忿然不平，以为这种赞美是错误的；听到别人有甚么地方不如人时，就感到欣慰和发笑。其实这种行为对别人又有甚么损害，只不过徒增别人对你的怨恨而已。

怀有疑心的人，人们说的话，可能是随口说说，他却反反复复的想：「这到底在讥讽我甚么事？那又到底在嘲笑我甚么事？」这种人与人结怨，往往就是从此开始的。贤明的人听到别人对自己的讥讽嘲笑，就像没听见一般，如此不是省却了许多烦恼事！（图片来源：网络图片）