Marriage Is Predetermined – Husband and Wife Should Treat Each Other with Respect (Part 1)


Marriage Is Predetermined – Husband and Wife Should Treat Each Other with Respect (Part 1)
During the Tang Dynasty, there was a man named Wei Gu who lived in Duling County. He was orphaned at a young age. After he grew up, he wanted to get married and have a family as soon as possible. He entrusted others to seek a wife for him, but with no success. In the second year of the Yuanhe Era (806 – 820 AD), he toured the Qinghe area and stayed in an inn south of Songcheng City. A guest at the inn suggested that he propose to the daughter of Pan Fang, the Defense Secretary of Songcheng. They made an appointment the next day at the entrance of Longxing Temple to discuss further.
To show that he was sincere about marriage, Wei arrived at the appointed place before dawn. When he got there, he saw an old man sitting on the stairs of the temple going through a list of books in the moonlight. Wei quietly browsed through the list of books, but they were not written in Chinese or Sanskrit. He could not recognize the characters of the book titles.
Wei asked the old man, “What book are you looking for? I have studied diligently since I was little, and it is rare that I encounter characters that I do not recognize. I can even read Sanskrit. However, I am not familiar with the books you are reviewing. What are they?” The old man smiled and answered, “These are books of the netherworld. Since they do not belong to this world, of course you have not seen them. I am from the netherworld and I am in charge of the affairs over here. I was not supposed to run into you, since we are separated by yin and yang. We meet here today because you came too early, not because I appeared at the wrong place.”
Wei asked the old man, “What are you in charge of?” He replied, “I am in charge of the marriages of this world.” Wei got excited and asked him, “I was orphaned when I was little, so I wanted to get married quickly so I can have descendants. I have proposed marriage to many girls over a dozen years, but with no success. I will meet someone here today to discuss Secretary Pan’s daughter. Will it work out?”
The old man told Wei, “No. If you are not destined to marry someone, even if that someone is of low social status and you condescend to marry her, it will still not work. Your wife just passed her third birthday. She will marry into your family when she is 17.”
Wei then asked the old man, “What do you carry in your bag?” He answered, “Red strings. I use them to tie the feet of the husband and wife together in the human world. When a person is born, he or she already has a string on his or her foot tied to their future spouse. It does not matter if the two are enemies, or if one is rich and the other is poor, or if they live in the two most remote corners of the world. Once this red string ties them together, they cannot disobey their destiny. Your foot is tied to someone. Nothing is going to change it, regardless of your enthusiasm for seeking an early marriage.”
Wei asked, “Then where is my wife? What does her family do?” The old man told him, “Your wife is the daughter of a woman with the last name Chen. She sells vegetables in a market north of the inn.” “Can I see her,” Wei asked. “Chen often takes her daughter to the market. Follow me, I can point her out for you,” replied the old man.
It was morning and Wei's friend still did not show up. The old man packed up his books to lead Wei to the market. Wei followed behind. An old woman with one blind eye carrying a three-year-old girl walked toward them. The girl's clothes were worn and she looked ugly. The old man pointed at the girl and told Wei that she was his wife. Wei got very angry, “Can I kill her?” “The girl has a prosperous future, and she will have a wealthy life with you. She should not be killed,” said the old man, and then he disappeared.
Wei cursed, “That old ghost talks absurd nonsense. I was born into an educated family with social status. I should marry someone with equal standing. Even if I never get married, I could be friendly with some beautiful women. Why should I marry a blind woman's ugly daughter?” He sharpened a knife and handed it to his servant, “You are a capable person. If you kill this girl for me, I will reward you with a lot of money.”

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