Reinforce Virtue to Ensure Harmony between Husband and Wife
According to Confucianism, in order to maintain social order, morality and relationships, one needs to follow the Three Cardinal Guides (ruler guides subject, father guides son, and husband guides wife) and the Five Constant Virtues (benevolence, righteousness, propriety, wisdom, and sincerity). More specifically, the family is the cornerstone of any society. As such, harmony between husband and wife is critical to achieving social stability.
A Cozy Home
As the saying goes, “A lone yin does not grow, and a solo yang does not prosper.” In other words, yin and yang are interdependent and are both part of a dynamic system. Marriage between a woman and a man signifies the sacredness of the relationship between two complementary opposites, that is, to create future generations that allow humankind to survive and thrive.
According to traditional moral principles, a legitimate marriage calls for matchmakers’ arrangements, parents’ approval, and Heaven’s blessings. Certain formalities are required of the wedding ceremony, at which the newlyweds need to kowtow to different entities: first to Heaven and Earth, then to their respective parents, and lastly to each other. Only when a man and a woman get married this way will their newly-established family have a solid foundation upon which to grow as a pillar of society.
The Taoist principle of the harmony between Heaven and man implies that the husband in a family is yang and the wife is yin. He is in charge of the household’s external affairs and she of the internal affairs. He works hard to support his family, and she strives to be the understanding wife and loving mother. She creates a sanctuary that, regardless of whether he is far or near, he always longs to return to. They both understand that it is a predestined relationship that brings them together, so they have a deep appreciation for each other. Despite the differences, they know how to be tolerant and considerate of each other. Built on mutual respect, their marriage is indestructible, their home is warm and welcoming, and their life colorful and harmonious.
The Three Cardinal Guides and Five Constant Virtues are the moral standards that our ancestors passed down to us to help maintain familial and social order. These standards conform to the Heavenly principles and are blessed by Gods and Buddhas. During the 5,000 years of Chinese history, those who have followed the standards have been able to build prosperous, wealthy, and virtuous families. Those who violate the standards have only seen their wealth dwindle and their families shrink. Just as the saying goes, families that practice benevolence have plenty of fortune to pass down to future generations, whereas those that do evil leave endless retributions for their offspring to face.
Moral standards, an essential part of the traditional culture bestowed by Heaven, are the basis of human civilization. As such, mankind should comply with the arrangements of nature and behave accordingly. As the anchors of society, each family should ensure its healthy growth and maintain a sustainable existence. Observing the moral standards will enable both husband and wife to keep calm amid the chaotic secular world, enjoy each other, and live a long life.
A Tomb of Unhappiness
Since it came to power more than 60 years ago, the Chinese Community Party (CCP) has been worshiping the communist ideology and promoting the advanced science it imported from the Western world. To tighten its control, the CCP completely abandoned the traditional ethical standards and the principle of harmony between Heaven and man (which is the foundation of advanced ancient science), and at the same time brainwashed the Chinese people with atheism. The loss of righteous belief in Gods and Buddhas eventually led to the destruction of the moral foundation upon which normal families and society grow and flourish.
In today’s China, one can no longer find any trace of traditional Chinese culture nor the purity derived from it. The collapse of morality, the pursuit of sexual freedom and selfish interests is the current status quo. Meanwhile, modern science has provided all the conveniences for people to pursue hedonism. There is a so-called “two haves and two have-nots” rule popular among young people in China today when it comes to seeking a spouse. Namely, they want their mates to have a house and a car, but with no mother or father to worry about. Such a standard goes completely against the purpose of marriage, that is, to produce offspring.
The liberation of people’s selfish nature has the cascading effect of causing families and subsequently the entire society to decay. Many families become just a formality with no real marriage existing between husband and wife. A once cozy home instead becomes a tomb of unhappiness in which to bury their minds and souls.
Families are the cornerstones of society. If there are no cornerstones, is there any hope for the rest of the structure of society? If all the countries in this world turn out this way, this earth will go bad like a rotten apple. Where is the way out for human beings?
Reinforce the Three Cardinal Guides and the Five Constant Virtues
The existence and progress of humankind is determined by the laws of nature and everything is pre-arranged by Heaven. A man and a woman will never get married if they are not destined to become husband and wife. It does not matter how one finds his or her mate, be it through their own efforts, introduction by other people, or arranged by parents, he or she will surely settle on the very same person if they are destined to become husband and wife. How the marriage will turn out all depends on the predestined relationship between the husband and the wife. Whether it is a success or failure, it is the couple’s virtue and karma that accumulated in their previous’ lives at play.
In addition to affection, there is also the sense of indebtedness that a husband and wife have to each other. We should be thankful for such indebtedness bestowed by Heaven. The man should be responsible for the woman, who entrusts her whole life to him. The woman, on the other hand, should be caring towards her husband. During endless reincarnations, no one can take fame and material interests with them, but virtue and karma will always carry over. The most evil among all the evil things in the world is promiscuity, which will accumulate huge karma. As soon as one becomes promiscuous, his or her good fortune will be reduced, and the karma may even hurt future offspring. However, one’s thoughts determine one’s behavior. It would be invaluable if one could restrain the evil thoughts and stop doing bad things.
To rediscover virtue and righteousness, we must reinforce the Three Cardinal Guides and the Five Constant Virtues to help repair and strengthen families. Only when each building block becomes healthy again can the whole society regain its long-lasting hope. After all, families are the strength of our future.
重启纲常夫妇顺
儒家思想用三纲五常--
君臣义、父子亲、夫妇顺（君为臣纲、父为子纲、夫为妻纲），仁、义、礼、智、信，信守忠孝节义、敬天地君亲师，规范人的道德、行为，维系家庭、人际关系，维持社会秩序。家庭是社会的细胞，夫妇顺是维护社会稳定的重要因素。
温馨的家
俗话说：孤阴不生，独阳不长。婚姻结合包含著男女之间关系的神圣：为人类繁衍后代、延续香火。
按传统道德理念，男婚女嫁，要依父母之命、媒妁之言；要明媒正娶；要拜天、拜地、拜高堂、夫妻对拜；要得到双亲的允诺、上苍的认可；这个新家庭的存在才合理合法，小小细胞尚有在社会机体中诞生的基础。
天人合一的道家理论告诉我们：一个家庭中，男为阳，女为阴；外为阳，内为阴；男主外，女主内；男人养家糊口，女人相夫教子；肝胆相照，牢不可破。同舟此生皆因缘，伉俪共撑一片天：妻子会用勤劳的双手辟出一方乐土，为饱经风霜、身心疲惫的丈夫安身立命。无论远游天涯，还是近在咫尺，夫婿的心底总对守望家园的贤妻存留一份眷恋；夫妻之间也常会做退一步之想，谦让隐忍，和光同尘，日子总能过的游刃有余、从容自在；家庭生活才幸福温馨、和谐美满、丰富多彩。
奉行三纲五常是神传文化道德体系中老祖宗留给中华大地后代子孙维护家庭、社会稳定的准则，是符合宇宙法理得神佛护佑的大善、大德之举。五千年来，凡遵循此准则者，无不家道兴旺，富而有德；反其道而行之，则家业败落，贫困潦倒。正所谓积善之家必有余庆，积恶之家必有余殃。
构成神传文化的道德体系和生态体系是人类文明的基石。人就应该顺应大自然的安排，自律自己的行为，从每个家庭做起，保持社会细胞的健康成长，保持人类自己的良好生存状态。这样，在纷繁忙乱的凡尘浊世，只要把握上苍赏赐的那份温馨，总能让人摆平心境，与挚爱风雨同舟、共享天伦。
忧郁的冢
中共上政后取代神佛将西来共产主义常祭上神坛，误导国人在学习西方先进技术的同时，抛弃了老祖宗留下的传统伦理道德思想和构成发达的古代科学天人合一的生态理论精髓，倚仗共产主义和现代科学灌输，用“无神论”彻底颠覆了国人对神佛的正信，破坏了正常的家庭、社会的道德基础。
当今中国，古风无存，清纯不再。道德沦丧、纵欲、自私是人类的现状，而科学又给人对物欲的贪婪，提供、创造了及时行乐的市场。目前社会上流行的择偶标准（二有二无--
有房、有车，无父、无母），完全违背了神安排男女婚配为人类传宗接代、延续香火的初衷。
人的私性解放的结果，造成了社会细胞的连锁性解体，导致多数家庭名存实亡，本应美满的婚姻成了埋葬身心的坟墓，本应温馨的“家”变成了忧郁的冢。
家庭是社会机体的细胞，细胞都烂掉了，这个社会还有希望吗？各国都如此，这个地球就成了烂苹果。人类的出路何在？
重启纲常
人类的生存与未来和自然规律息息相关，一切都是上苍有序的安排。不是一家人，不进一家门；自己通过恋爱或经人介绍认识的那一位，和父母包办的是一个人。至于婚姻幸福、美满与否，那是天意、命运使然、是自己应该承担的果报。古圣先贤讲的好：欲知前生事，今生受者是；欲知来生事，今生作者是；人在世间循因果关系转世轮回。
其实，夫妻之间除了情，还有一个恩在，做人要感激上苍赐予的夫妻之恩。男人要对托付终生的女人负起责任，女人要体贴、关爱自己身心归依的丈夫。人在生生轮回中，功名利禄带不走，唯有德业随身行。万恶淫为首，淫乱作恶造大业。只要沾上“淫”字，命中福禄受损，甚者会殃及子子孙孙。然一切福田，不离方寸；吉凶祸福，皆由心起；行止一念，全凭自己；保住道德操守，却弥足珍贵。
匡扶道义，呼唤古风。要恢复家庭原生态，必须重拾三纲五常，从夫妇顺做起，从内部修复烂苹果，让人类由里及外换新颜。每个细胞都健康了，社会这个大机体长治久安才有希望。
